Random thoughts, September 9, 2007
The obstacle of well-meaning secrets
Oh, I just can’t stand secrets! Sometimes I feel forced into complying with a time-limited secret, in order to help some of my closests. Most often, these secrets are well-intended, hence the time-limit. One example could be keeping a secret about a person for a few days, as a means to surprise this person at a later time. Take a surprise party - the most obvious example of a well-meant secret. I wouldn’t eliminate surprise parties completely (even if I actually had the chance), but just let surprise parties have the exclusive right for secrets with a good intention, because this is the only time that a secret can be useful.
And as for any other kind of secret:
Why do we always have to harm others to feel good about ourselves?
September 12th, 2007 at 12:02 am
As you mention - secrets can be good. But I think they also can be good in other cases than surprise parties. Some secrets aren’t meant to be told - maybe it’s none of your business, or maybe the secret is being held and you can’t know, because it is kept to protect you (i.e. surprise parties).
But secrets behind your back - only intended to harm you sucks. That’s that gotta go.
I think that persons, who harms others to make themselves feel better, have personal problems. Imagine saying something good to others - that have the same effect, except you’re not being a douche..
September 12th, 2007 at 10:32 pm
Good point about the protective secrets! You’re absolutely right. Actually I suspect that many things are being kept secret to everyone for their own sake. I think there is a fine line between secrets that aren’t meant to be told and private areas though. So if you are dealing with something private yourself that concerns no other than yourself, I’d recognize it as a private matter and not as a thing I’m keeping secret for my friends and/or family. With that being said, secrets suck
Thanks for commenting on this one btw!
September 13th, 2007 at 9:25 pm
I second that!